We look toward our younger generation & we judge them. We notice how oversexualized our younger generation is and how majority of decisions are based on what's trending.
'We', being the adults of this very generation ridicule those young people that we were not too long ago. The question is, are they completely to blame for their behavior? I think not. We are partially responsible. I mean, as part of the generation of today's adults, we suck big time.
We act grown but yet still haven't grown up. Jy raak oud maar, jy groei nie op nie.
we can go further and even blame the adults of our day who may have failed us but that does not matter does it.
What really matters now is that with what we know we do better. Most of us don't even know how to be an adult. We think because we have jobs, we have cars, we have homes, we have bills, we have kids, that we got this adult thing in check. As much as this is a big part of it, it's just the added stuff. But what about our character. 🧐
I have learnt it takes a lot more than just that to be an adult. It's in how you confront challenges, how you forgive and treat people, it's in how honest you are, it's in emotional maturity, it is in having hard conversations and taking accountability. It's in being responsible and not blaming others for the choices we make. It's in living selflessly. It's in knowing that no matter what you do, it will affect others. It's in knowing that kids are always looking at your behavior in general and how you treat them. It is knowing that change is inevitable and that we need change in order to grow. It's knowing that even if you do the right thing or the say the right thing, that not everyone will agree with you. It's in knowing that has an adult you have a responsibility to a younger generation, to help them, to guide them into the right direction and even if they choose otherwise, it is for us to be understanding that they, too have free will. We need to be the consistency that we never had.
As adults, we know what kid's need. Only because we were a kid once.
We don't know it all, but we do know better due to experience. We know better only because we messed up at some point or were treated badly.
I guess, what I am trying to say is that while you may find it hard to 'adult' right now, its best you figure out why and move on from that childish thought. Alot of us have not gotten over many traumas experienced as a child/teen, however, our lack of healing is not someone else's fault, face the music, you're grown, get help, get to know Jesus, the true healer.
I tried 'adulting' the way, the world showed. But I still failed. When I chose to give my life to Jesus Christ and only live for Him. It was in this time how much I learnt that I wasnt being a much of an adult. My actions in retrospect were definitely not role model material.
The Bible does not provide a clear definition of what it means to be an adult. However, it does provide guidance on how to mature and grow in wisdom and stature. For instance, 1 Corinthians 13:11 states that “When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.” Similarly, Luke 2:52 mentions that “And Jesus kept increasing in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.”
In Hebrews 6:1, the author urges the readers to “press on to maturity” Ephesians 4:15 also emphasizes the importance of growing up in all aspects into Christ.
In summary, the Bible encourages us to grow and mature in all aspects of our lives, including our spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being. It is a lifelong process that requires us to leave behind childish ways and press on to maturity.
I learnt a while back that when something in another person bothers me, it means to have a deeper look to self. What about that something triggers me and why does it trigger me. Sometimes its points out a bad habit in me, or a flawed characteristic. Just like when bullies hurt another person, this shows that they are hurt. Hence, hurt people, hurt people.
Before we ridicule others, take time to critic yourself. Introspection is key. Introspection is necessary. We can't help others, nor can we recognize a need if we can't even evaluate ourselves effectively. When we mature in Christ, this usually shows up naturally as well, for instance, Peter, the hot-head disciple, it took a while to see his maturity in Christ, but we eventually did.
The best thing you can do is to ask the Lord Jesus to reveal your heart, to expose the good and the bad and to ask Him to heal where there is broken, guide with clarity where there is confusion and ask Him to lead while you follow Him consistently.
Here are a few things you may want to ask yourself & may even want to use them has journal prompts. Be honest with yourself.
❤About you
What are the top three values that you live by?
What’s your biggest regret in life so far & why do think of it as regret and not a blessing?
Who has had the most influence in shaping who you are today?
What do you see beyond your reflection when you look in the mirror?
If you could meet your 5-years-older self, what questions would you ask?
If you could meet your 16-years-older self, what instruction would you give?
What does success mean to you?
How do you handle stress and anxiety?
How do you handle criticism?
🎀About you & others
How would you describe your relationship with your family?
What’s something you’re passionate about but rarely get a chance to talk about?
If you had the power to change one thing in the world, what would it be?
How do you feel about the idea of getting older?
What’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken and what did it teach you about yourself?
What worries or scares me the most about the future?
Do I feel it’s more important to love or to be loved?
What’s the last time I’ve got really angry? What’s the real reason behind that anger?
What are the things that usually get me all teary-eyed?
What would I do differently if I knew no one was judging?
What does peace of mind mean to me?
What’s the most valuable lesson a past relationship taught you?
🤝Relationships, the inevitable and you
How do you handle change, especially when it’s unexpected?
How are you making a positive impact on the world or on other people’s lives?
Are you truly content with your life, and if not, what would you change?
Do you set healthy boundaries in your relationships?
Do maintain those healthy boundaries in your relationships?
Do you feel you can truly be yourself in your relationships? Why or why not?
How do you handle the end of a relationship?
What’s something you need to forgive someone for?
😬Get real.
Am I setting a good example for others around me?
Are there any emotions you’ve been trying to avoid dealing with?
How much time do you spend alone, and are you comfortable with it?
Are there any unresolved issues from your past that still affect you?
Do you often compare yourself to others, and how does that affect you?
Are there any toxic repetitive patterns I’ve always been falling prey to in my life?
If you could go back five years, what advice would you give your past self?
Are you leading the life you want to or the life others expect of you?
😟A little gringing..
If life is a journey, where is yours leading?
What am I pretending not to know?
Who am I really when no one’s watching?
What am I settling for?
Where in my life am I not taking responsibility?
Am I using my time wisely?
Am I truly happy, or just comfortable?
How much am I influenced by other people’s opinions?
Am I too attached to my possessions?
What’s the worst thing someone has said about me and was it true?
How do my actions align with my spiritual beliefs?
What role does faith play in my life?
Do I believe in fate or free will? Or a mix of both?
🤍The one Who truly cares...
Have you given Jesus a chance?
Is Jesus enough for me?
I don't believe that we will ever get to the point where we've mastered being an adult just the same that we will never a be a perfect Christian. However, with maturity, there is growth. We can be better. The aim is to always be better than yesterday. True change and true identity are found in Jesus Christ alone.
it's up to you if you want to be better and if you want to be an adult that our younger generation needs. Someone truly dependable, someone whose foundation is built on Jesus alone.I trust this blesses you.
Ps. Jesus completely loves you.
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